Updated: Oct 10, 2021
We see guys get themselves so worked up, stressed out and overwhelmed with too many questions, too soon. We are going to break it down, step by step.
Proposals of San Diego have been a part of helping many gorgeous couples from all over the world who come to San Diego make sure their marriage proposal is perfect. During this time, we’ve really seen what can go right... and what can go horribly, horribly wrong. Men and women come to us for advice on what to do, what not to do, where to do it, how to ask, they need ideas or sometimes they have an idea and they just want us to help pull it off. In doing and seeing so many proposals, we’ve really got a solid handle on what works and what doesn’t work. Now we want to share this with you!
Where to start is probably the most overwhelming part of the whole proposal experience. You’re having so many thoughts coming to you:
How am I going to ask her dad?
What if her mom tells her?
I need her best friends help?
How do i get her to “that” location?
We see guys get themselves so worked up, stressed out and overwhelmed with too many questions, too soon. We are going to break it down, step by step. So you’ve met “the one,” you are ready to propose…. now what???
Step One: Know Your Partner
Who is your partner? What do you know about them?
On a deep, fundamental level, do you KNOW them. If a bunch of things don’t immediately come to mind, if you don’t have a strong sense of WHO your partner is, I’m sorry, you probably are not ready to propose.
Start making a list - what do they like, not like, what’s your partner's favorite food, what’s their favorite restaurant/movie/tv show? Do they like crowded bars or reading alone? Nature lover or city slicker? Are they sentimental? What is their favorite local coffee place and their favorite vacation destination?
How did you meet? Where did you meet?
Step Two: Keep It Simple
Don’t overwhelm yourself with thinking you need to incorporate ALL the elements I’ve just asked you to list. The best thing to do is start broad, and then pair down to one or two elements to create something simple, beautiful and romantic.
You can still do something grand, over the top, Jumbotron, write it in the sky - awesome! You just don’t need to pile on a dozen different themes. Start by thinking big, but they really think about what your partner would want, which brings us to step three.
Step Three: It’s All About Them
Just because you have the means, or the budget or the opportunity to do something huge and over the top, doesn’t mean its the right proposal for you. For example, your buddy can get you free court-side seats and a hookup on the Jumbotron…. if she’s not interested in sports, thats the WRONG proposal. That will simply show your partner that you don’t even know them or what they like. So just because you CAN do something, doesn’t mean you should.
Remember - its not about you, its all about them.
Step Four: Romance Over Creativity
One place we have consistently seen proposers go wrong, is they think creativity is the most important thing. They will stress themselves out over how creative they think they need to be. You don’t need to reinvent the wheel, you don’t need to wow your partner with your creativity or do something super crazy or different.
Sure, she’s not going to want some run-of-the-mill proposal like all her friends got, thats true, but she’s also not going to be holding a score card to judge your level of creativity. That is not the point. Romance is the point. Simple romance always wins over creativity.
Don’t let creativity get in the way of being romantic and creating a proposal that would be perfect for you and your partner.
Do what your partner would like, not what you would like.
As San Diego’s premiere engagement consultants, Proposals of San Diego creates moments that reflect the unique love story of each couple. We offer all-inclusive proposal packages, and plan one-of-a-kind experiences for marriage proposals, vow renewals and anniversaries.